• Miss Melly

My end of year/start of year routine - supercharged for a new decade!

I LOVE this time of year.

Not for the craziness of people in the shops fighting over bargains and losing their manners.

Not for the people that seem to lose the plot and the heightened emotions.

But because it's the perfect chance to reflect upon what was in the year one is closing out, and put plans in place to form habits to achieve goals for the coming years.

And, heck, this isn't JUST the end of a year and the start of a new one - it's the end of a freaking DECADE and the start of the decade of TWENTIES!!!!

Which means, of course, that this year I am supercharging my routine!

I have also picked up something this year which I've incorporated into that routine, thanks to the insanely clever and energetic Rachel Hollis.

My usual routine is to spend some time analysing the year I am closing out.

- what worked? (I'll plan to do more of that in the coming year)

- what didn't work? (I'll plan to eliminate that or at very best minimise those things)

- where did I waste time I don't want to waste moving forward? (c ya later, meaningless social media scrolling and Weed 'n Feed for the lawn - which, I'll have you know, actually creates MORE weeds and a bigger headache than one had at first)

- where did I feel 'in flow'? (focus here)

From there, I subscribe to Brendon Burchard's approach of big, lofty, 3-5 year goals that don't come from a place of lack or reinforce the notion that you aren't enough of something, or that you're anything less than worthy just as you are. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for self-improvement, but not at the expense of deflating likely-already-fragile self-esteeem.

Case in point?

"I'm overweight. I will lose x kilograms/pounds".

"I'm not fit enough. I will stop avoiding the gym."

These? As Brendon says, come from a very reactive place - problem in life : fix it. Repeat.

Not highly motivational or getting you towards your longer-term dreams, right?

(Listen to RISE podcast with Rachel Hollis, episode 75 : Daily Habits that Change the Game with Brendon Burchard for more).

You know how by late February all those people who said they were going to go to the gym more - they aren't in the gym anymore? But still paying the membership? That's because it's a short-term fix for a problem. There's no strategy to back it up or habits to build to help them actually commit. But habits is a post for another day.

So what do you do for goal setting if not goal setting to fix problems? You think BIG. And set 3-5 year big goals. Then work back from that big goal, breaking it down in to the steps you need to take to get there. Deliberate, intentional practice. Skill building. Much more productive and positive. If you want to dive into that further, go listen to the podcast episode.

THAT is how I set goals for the new year (or decade) - breaking down the big goals into smaller steps. Reflecting on what didn't work or where my energy went that I don't want it to go in the coming year. And making adjustments accordingly.

I create my Vision board based on those big goals, with affirmations, and inspiring images. I usually do a physical board, but this year I'm doing my physical board AND digital so it'll be my screensaver on both my phone and laptop. Front of mind.

For 2020, I've set 20 things I want to do for 2020. Read 1 book for pleasure every month. Twenty "Me" days. Three digital course launches. One month of zero alcohol. Eight zero work days every month. 52 weekly meal plans. You get the picture.

These things are ALL related somehow to my big, 3-5 year goals.

This year, I learnt about Rachel Hollis' 5 to Thrive.

Up the water intake, move for 30 minutes every day, an hour a day for something for YOU, gratitude. All habits I want to build anyway, just ones that I don't do every day. So I made my own 5 to Thrive checklist to add to my quarterly planner and my vision board, AND by the door of my bedroom so I see it every time I walk out. I've got one quarter of 5 to thrive I want to track, so I have also downloaded a tracker and added that to my planner too.

I have room in my planner to add gratitude practice every day.

And the monthly overviews? I've broken down those 20 for 2020 things and put a checklist each month - so when I'm planning my months ahead, I've got an idea of what I need to commit to and MAKE time for if I want to achieve those things.

I say MAKE time because we all have the same 24 hours in a day. If you think someone else has more time than you to get stuff done, I'm calling you out on that right here and now. NO. We ALL have the same 24 hours in a day.

Some people just choose to use their 24 to commit to longer-term goals. Some choose to eliminate watching the news or reality TV or mindless social media scrolling, and redirect that time towards achieving those bigger goals. And if you choose to watch that reality TV show instead, it doesn't make you a bad person - it makes you someone with different priorities. Not a person with any less time than any other person.

So, what type of person are you? One that sets goals and reflects on the year that was? If that's you, you're my people! What process do you use?

63 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All